We were married for 11yrs, together for 16yrs. I was blind sided. I was a homemaker. due to our financial stability with what he made, which we agreed whoever made more worked, believing in one parent stay home/other worked when raising children. I put my all into being a homemaker. I did his extra errands, kept the I’m a sassy talkin’ Flip-flop wearin’ racing lovin’ beer drinkin’ kinda girl shirt In addition,I will do this house pristine, kept our children happy and safe. Put him and the children first and above me, which I felt right in doing so. The first years were great. He treated me as any guy would that was in love with his wife. The last few years of our relationship, something seemed off, and when I would ask he would say I was crazy. I had dreams that he was cheating and I would tell him and he would laugh it off. He wasn’t near as loving as before. Before we wouldn’t go anywhere without each other and now he would leave on work trips telling me we couldn’t afford it for us to go too, which was total bullshit. And, yes, before, and during this time we were very physically active with intimacy. Long story short, he comes home one day and says that he wanted to separate just to get his head clear. I didn’t understand, and as numb as I was and shocked, I loved him so I believed in him and accepted it hoping he would do just as he said. A month tops is what he said. What shocked me the most wasn’t the divorce papers sent after, or the emotional emptiness I felt, it was when reading the paperwork questionnaire, he admitted to multiple affairs he had started having towards the end of the relationship, the detailing of each affair, and how after so long of being with him, how cold he turned on me. He left me for a 19yr old at the time they started hooking up, still together. Not that age matters, in truth, just brought on more insecurities with me after having children, family life, etc. My problem, nothing more. Another issue that shocked me was that we were best friends before all of this, and I had to fight him over everything with it came to finances. I did get a full time job, and did what I could, but it was like his human decency or the fact that I was the mother of his children had no meaning. Like I was the one that hurt him.
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He flattered himself, she had a drunk mistake and she didn’t actually find him that cute or was interested. He always was into curvy blondes and I was a slim brunette so I guess he thought he found his upgrade. Tbh idk if she even knew he had a gf and they met at a party when I was in NY. I put things together and found out. Apparently they still texted some after and I read them but it was obvious it was him trying to reach out and start a conversation and her barely responding with small talk. They hung out a couple times to smoke and her get free weed, but wouldn’t get sexual with him then take off. I found all this out months after and broke up, but nothing happened with them after. She basically acted like it never happened from what I heard and when I checked her Facebook a year or so back curious, she has moved far away for some new job. They never dated or anything after we ended. He’s still single years later and tried going after a lot of the I’m a sassy talkin’ Flip-flop wearin’ racing lovin’ beer drinkin’ kinda girl shirt In addition,I will do this cute blondes in our town. Many weren’t interested and turned him down, and later when they realized he was my ex and we made friends, tell me the awkward date they had with him before ghosting or him constantly trying to get in their dms and ignoring/blocking him. I guess the grass isn’t always greener. He’s getting close to 30 now, we broke up 4 or so years ago, but he moved away so maybe he’ll finally get his dream girl but if he does I feel bad for her. He tried reaching out some to me and said he was sorry for how toxic he was, but the I can tell he still is. And more importantly I actually have a good bf now whose kind, more handsome, we live together, and he treats me way better so I don’t see him trying to make amends with me anytime soon lol. Probably doesn’t help I felt weird with the random messages he’d send, or him saying hi a couple times at my job recently years later so I blocked him on FB, Oh well So I went to the waiting room and began to wait for my turn to come up. Around 8 AM a man came in and gave the cashier his name.